As of today I’ve been married for thirty years. My husband and I have been talking about this accomplishment a lot lately. We are proud of how hard we have worked on our marriage over the years. It’s kind of amazing, really. You meet someone and fall in love, and you decide you will spend the rest of your life together, but you have absolutely no idea what lies ahead. Some of what you think will happen does, but much of it is a surprise. The biggest surprise is how much you keep changing, as does your partner.
We’ve been through a lot together, all of those things that are spoken of in marriage vows, but we have come through it still as best friends. As we move through middle age we are ever more supportive of and compassionate with one another. A lot of that stuff that seemed like such a big deal twenty years ago really isn’t. We have both experienced major illnesses, family stresses and challenging life events in the last few years, but we found that our bond kept tightening, and we have both come to realize what is important and what isn’t. We have learned to let a lot of things go – and we make more time to be together.
Today, I’m grateful.